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I’ve recently started working at a fantastic new start-up company. I realised that, after not working in an office environment in over 10 years, that things have changed. And I am thoroughly enjoying the adventure.

I consider myself an organised person, a lover of people, and someone who enjoys learning, even if it’s a challenge.

My role, as the office manager, gives me the opportunity to apply all my talents. For this, I am very lucky.

But, here’s the thing… there are definitely new work behaviours, and yes, etiquette, to learn. It’s a minefield, and if you get it wrong, it can have a lot of humourous or embarrassing consequences.

My very first day, I had to learn how to work in an open seating plan environment.

A friend who works as in-house counsel to Microsoft, and they had moved too, to an open plan working environment. He found it very challenging to take sensitive phone calls, with so many people, and ears, around him. Suffice it to say, they reverted to private offices for those positions in key, and sensitive, roles.

I, on the other hand, sit inthe heart of the office. I am surrounded by talented professionals, each bringing their own expertise to a growing company. Communication is possibly the key tool that each person must master to make sure that the work flow assists the company’s growth. Herein lies the challenge. How do you communicate, if 40 people are in the same room, at the same time. Yes, you guessed it, online.

My first day, I was sitting at my desk, when my computer pinged a skype message. I was surprised to see that the girl sitting right beside me had sent me a message. Yes, right next to me.

My immediate reaction was to answer her, so I looked over at her, and waited for her to look back at me. This did not happen. She continued busily working on what she was doing. I waited, a polite moment or two, to see if she would look back at me. But to no avail.

So, I gently spoke her name, at which time, she turned her head, and met my eyes, and I replied to her question, and said a few pleasantries.

I, quickly understood, that disrupting a person’s workflow was a no-no. The company memo read;

“Internal communication:-

-for urgent communication, that requires a response within the hour, use Skype

-for communication that is less urgent, send an email

-avoid disrupting an individual who is busy working”

This happened to me several times in my first month. It still happens now, but less often. I have learnt that my workflow is also valuable to the company, and my colleagues also send me messages.

Communication… skype, then slack. What ever happened to making eye contact with each other, talking with words, sounds, and facial expression. I think a lot more can be said when you look at my face, than when I text you. Just saying

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Cropped

Crop top

 

There really is nothing good about a cropped top. I don’t know how Olivia Newton-John did it, but she made it look fun in her music video Physical. Or Madonna in the movie Desperately Seeking Susan. But that was in the early 90’s.

Today, too many young ladies are baring their midriff.

So when is it appropriate to wear them?

First of all, let’s define the crop top as a t-shirt that, in essence, looks like it has been cut to reveal your torso from as high as your belly button. They seem to have no other purpose than to attract the passerby’s eyes to the girls waist. Obviously, this is to publicise what she deems a physical highlight.

Rule 1: Never wear them to work. It doesn’t matter how svelte you think you are. Even if you work in a surf shop, or at the beach. It is unflattering, and definitely not elegant. You can’t possibly be taken seriously if you walk around amongst your colleagues with your midriff bare. It is better to wear a t-shirt that is snug (note, not tight), than to wear a cropped top. If you think of restaurant chains like Hooters, you can imagine the type of client you’re going to get. They aren’t going for the quality of food, but for the display of bodies.

Needless to say, never wear them in an office environment.

Rule 2: Never go on a date wearing a crop top. Even if it’s to meet up with your boyfriend at the gym, or to the beach. Even if you want to grab his attention, you will likely get the attention of other men, and this is inconsiderate, and tactless.

Rule 3: Never go dancing in nightclubs in cropped top. It really does scream “skank” (It’s not a word I use freely… but is the only one that comes to mind). All the women will think you’re asking for trouble, and all the men will too. Sadly, they may oblige.

Rule 4: Never wear them to formal events, even if they are part of a matching skirt, pant or jacket.

Rule 5: If you absolutely must wear such a top, the only place to wear it, is going to the gym, on top of another layer of workout wear (see picture above). Or, in the privacy of your own home!!!

The other day, on a hot Sydney summer day, I watched a young girl, about 15 years old, wearing a stripey cropped t-shirt, over a fluorescent bra, and tight denim cut-off shorts. She checked her reflection as she passed shop front windows. She was attractive and her body was neither ample or skinny. She seemed rather like a healthy teenager. I just thought that she is trying to get attention, but for all the wrong reasons. She is too young to know what’s at stake.

Of course, if you your religion or cultural background requests it, then it is rarely, if ever, confused with Western etiquette on fashion and attire.

And if you’re going to a fancy dress party from the 80’s, then it’s possibly the most integral piece of clothing that you’ll need. Along with tight capri pants, lots of thick chains around your neck, a chunky head band, and lots of bright makeup, whilst chewing gum.

Maybe if you’re in Ibiza, at one of the wild nightclub parties. But then you’re unlikely to be reading my blog. Nor worried about etiquette.

I always wonder with all the hundreds of fashion styles available to women today, why do they get it so wrong? Maybe my next career will be in styling. For today, I watch, I listen, I see, and I pass these observations to you, and especially to my young teenage daughter, and hope that she will always be making choices about her appearance based on what makes her feel confident and safe.

 

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