Whilst I adore that my new, gorgeous man, is thoughtful and considerate, he has demonstrated behaviour that requires pondering, researching and pursuit of the correct etiquette.
He always picks me up in his car and drives us around when we go out, even if it means going out of his way. This I appreciate. However, I’ve discovered a healthy amount of road rage when he sees another driver doing the wrong thing on the road.
Our first conversation on this topic was regarding a couple who boast owning a California Ferrari. It’s a pretty fancy car… if you like that sort of thing. I informed him that I had seen that they had parked it irresponsibly over someone’s driveway whilst attending a lunch with me and some friends. He then said that if he had seen such a thing, he would have liked to scratch the length of the car with his keys. I was flabbergasted. I couldn’t believe that he could suggest such a thing. I, too, found it inexcusable to think Mr and Mrs California Ferrari would think it acceptable, but to do physical damage to their car… no. I thought, at the time, that maybe he was demonstrating his macho-ness. He says that the haughtiness of the rich enrages him. Hmmm… I left it at that.
A few weeks later, we were driving around, and whilst approaching a corner, we could see a car crossing through our intersection too fast. He didn’t pause to let the driver go through, but instead accelerated in his large Jeep Cherokee to force the other driver to know that he was, not only, in the wrong, but that he better make a quick decision about what to do, or we would all be heading straight into collision! I held my breath, and then had minor heart palpitations for several minutes afterwards. He declared the other driver a select number of savoury adjectives, before merrily going on our way.
It does remain a rare occurrence, but when it happens, I seem to get stressed, whilst just has more resolve… to show the wrong-doer up.
I have asked him if he has road rage, but he declares that he doesn’t. He offers that, as I see the world through etqt/etiquette eyes, he too believes that there is a set protocol, or road etiquette, required.
So, I got to thinking, what is the right road etiquette, when you see that others blatantly behave badly, illegally, or worse, with total disregard for others on the road.
Though, in a perfect world, we would all drive responsibly, and only stop where and when we should, and never change lanes without indicating, and enter roundabouts at the right time, and wait for all pedestrians to cross the zebra crossing, and, and, and… the list is exhaustive. But, as I am the first to admit that I cannot commit to being the perfect driver all the time, I’m willing to allow that same ethos to all too. Hence, it’s just about having a little patience and understanding.
I’ve yet to see Mr Wonderful yell out expletives to anyone, or use his middle finger (but that may be because he’s read my the article on that.. https://etqtetiquette.com/2013/02/03/hey-kids-whats-with-the-middle-finger/ ), so maybe it’s just controlled frustrations.
I do know that as the passenger, I will remain calm, collected and quiet, never to be declared as the “backseat driver”.
On a more stressful note, my 16 year old son has started driving, and the level of angst and fear that I must contain surpasses any restrain I’ve yet to need with Mr Wonderful.
I asked Mr Wonderful to consider that maybe those bad drivers may be elderly, medically challenged, or several other helpless conditions. He didn’t see the relevance. Oh well… He’s Wonderful… not Perfect.