“ETIQUETTE is courteous, thoughtful behaviour, impeccable manners, dignity and civility.” Emily Post Etiquette, 1922 or “When in doubt, etqt today!”
In the “old” days, it was easy to know if your behaviour was acceptable or not. Your parents, your teachers, your elders were constantly berating you for anything that you did badly. You were told to keep your elbows off the table at mealtime; or that it’s rude to talk with your mouth full; or that you had to get up out of your seat on public transport for a pregnant woman or the elderly. Today it’s virtually impossible to know if you are doing things right, wrong, or if anything really has an acceptable standard.
We, at etqt, have decided that it’s time to investigate if etiquette of days gone by are still valid, and if not, what is the new acceptable behaviour, and also to delve into all the new areas that leave the young, the not so young and the people who are the examples scratching their heads as to what is etiquette today. Technology has blurred the lines of communication, where we used to put pen to paper and send mail via a foot man to the recipient in the village next door, and this was filled with etiquette dictating the quality of paper, the details of the ink, script and how to address your recipient by title…all very deliberate, courteous and thoughtful. Whereas now, we can write by predetermined fonts, on a screen, on an email, and hit send without regards to our recipients title and/or status.
Or can we?
Yes, we, at etqt, actually declare that etiquette is still very much a part of every day life, and though you may choose not to follow along, you will at the very least be aware that there is always behaviour that is thoughtful, courteous, considerate and dignified.
It’s important that the youth of today grow up with confidence knowing how they should behave in any given situation. It’s also just as important that we give their teachers (their parents in most cases) the material that they need to educate them too.
So, when in doubt, come visit us at etqt and we will share our wisdom. We will have researched each area with professionals, psychiatrists, leaders in their field, and often have them guest write articles.
I am a mother of two teenagers as well as a business woman who has grown one business in marketing, sales and distribution, and recently changed my career to become a creative pastry chef. Today, etqt is going to grow from one woman’s need to find answers to the hundreds of questions that I have about life and raising children with confidence, consciousness and courtesy.
Our writer’s will write from their view and experience when delving into their topics. Etqt will always offer you variations of ways to see issues, and give you the answers to guide your life and that of your children. We will also refer to many available sources including, but not withstanding:
- Antoine-Dariaux, Genevieve. Entertaining with Elegance.
- Baldrige, Letitia. The Amy Vanderbilt Complete Book of Etiquette.
- Baldridge, Letita. Amy Vanderbilt’s Everyday Etiquette: A Guide to Contemporary Living.
- Boehn, Max von. Modes and Manners, 4 vols.
- Debrett’s A-Z of Modern Manners, Sep, 2008
- Elias, Norbert. The History of Manners.
- Fenwick, Millicent. Vogue’s Book of Etiquette and Good Manners.
- Ford, Charlotte. Book of Modern Manners.
- Iversen, William. O the Times, O the Manners.
- Kasson, John F. Rudeness and Civility: Manners in Nineteenth-Century America.
- Miller, Llewellyn. The Encyclopedia of Etiquette.
- Post, Elizabeth L. Emily Post’s Etiquette.
- Roosevelt, Eleanor. Book of Common Sense Etiquette.
- Sprackling, Helen. The New Setting Your Table.
- Lininger, Michael. Etiquette Scholar Dining Etiquette.
With knowledge, we have strength. With strength, we have no fear. And a life without fear is a life with only opportunity.